Overcoming jealousy

There's really no satisfaction. We always want that one thing we can't have. It's a natural phenomenon right? Well that's not where the problem lies. It becomes a problem when you start having negative thoughts about the person you're jealous of. Yes we can't help envying someone but there is a serene feeling of peace when you are contented with what you have and who you are. Not all that glitters is gold. The person you envy for what they have,may have emotional issues deep within that even you can't handle.
Ever heard of the term,"what is pleasurable isn't always desirable"? Believe me..it's real. Just so you know,you might have dozens of qualities that the individual you envy doesn't have and wishes to have. So why be jealous? My advice? Just do you. You're the best at being who you are. Don't let jealousy rule your life. Its an instinctive drive that can ruin your life and the people around you. Don't try to drag someone down because you want to go up..no matter what,the end result if you attempt such is that you'll never be happy or satisfied with it. That's just the irony of life. Remember..words when spoken,can't be taken back.
While you may not be able to control that emotion of jealousy, here are a few steps to take in order to overcome it:

1)AWARENESS: the first step to overcoming jealousy is to be aware of the fact that you're jealous and to realize that what our mind is projecting towards us is not real. Sometimes,the mind projects the image of a perfect life that is unattainable and the more we strive to get towards that "perfect" life,the further it gets away from us. When we attain this clarity,we will be able to control our emotions through understanding.

2)RE-CHANNEL YOUR TIME AND EMOTIONS: another thing we should realize is that we can spend our time doing more useful things and engaging in more productive activities rather than sitting down in one place,fuming about another person's success and how to bring them down

3)DEVELOP SELF CONFIDENCE
4)DEVELOP CONTROL OVER YOUR ATTENTION
5)LEARN TO BE HAPPY FOR THOSE WHO SUCCEED BEFORE YOU
6)PRAY;Because you can do nothing without God.

In conclusion, research has proven that jealousy stems from a feeling of deep insecurity and fear so my advice to you is that you should strengthen your self esteem and try to project feelings of worthlessness out of your mind. Proclaim positive words into your life everyday. It's not bad to admire someone but it is a sin to be jealous of what that person has. I pray that with time,we will learn to become strong and confident enough to believe in ourselves and our capabilities

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